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My childhood was not an easy one. I’ve been kidnapped by my father at the age of 4, due to that and law punishment I wasn’t allowed to have any contact with him anymore, I’ve been mentally and physically abused by my mother who was depressed. I’ve been kicked out of the house multiple times. In puberty and adolescence I’ve suffered from depression and bounding issues.
There was a time during my depression that I did a lot of reflecting. I’ve taught myself a few things:
1. The only one who should and is responsible to love you more than anything else in this world is yourself, if you don’t, who else will?
2. You’re worth being loved and to love.
3. You’re different, that’s ok. That makes you interesting and inspiring.
4. You are not a victim, you are a survivor.
Eventually, I’ve had enough of the depression. I couldn’t stand being sad, isolating myself, having wrong habits and bad sleeping routines. I knew I had to turn it around, or I would sink in deeper as if it was quick sand.
I’ve changed my career choice and studied social work and a similar study at the university. Now I help children who are abused, depressed, have parents who are in a fighting divorce and so go on.
I understand how they feel, without telling them my background story (I do have to keep professional distance). They can see my understanding through my eyes and my words. I’m now able to use what happened to me as a gift to help children. To prevent. To make them happy adults who turn to be good parents. To break the intergenerational cycle. And that, that makes me not regret anything that happened to me. In the end, what happened just had to happen for me to learn to help them. It cost me many years to overcome what happened to me (24 years to be exact), but now I’ve reached being immensely happy with my life and myself. There is light at the end of the tunnel!
For everyone who gets out of a depression, abuse or anything else that negatively affected you: I salute you. You are not a victim, you are the survivor.